The 90/10 Principle

This is something I got thru email which is really meaningful..
It is called 'Discover the 90/10 Principle' written by Stephen Covey
He says that this will change your life..
or at LEAST, the way you react to situations..
I personally think this is really really true after reading..

So,
What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react...


What does this mean?
We really have NO control over 10% of what happens to us.
The other 90% is different.
You determine the other 90%.

How?
By your reaction. =)

You are having breakfast with you family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt.
You have no control over what has just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears.
After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.
A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school.
She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40miles per hour in a 30mph speed limit zone.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you realize you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.


WHY?
Because of how YOU reacted in the morning.


Why did you have a bad day?
a) Did the coffee cause it?
b) Did your daughter cause it?
c) Did the policeman cause it?
d) Did you cause it?


The answer is "D"


You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.


Here is what could have and should have happened.


Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry.
You gently say:" Its okay, honey, you just need to be more careful next time."
Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt. You grab your briefcase, and you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.


Notice the difference?


Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and headaches.
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It can change your life!
It only takes willpower to give ourselves permission to make the experience.


Absolutely everything we do, give, say, or even think, it's like a Boomerang.
It will come back to us...
If we want to receive, we need to learn to give first.
Maybe we will end with our hands empty, but our heart will be filled with LOVE
and those who love life, have that feeling marked in their hearts...

我落泪. 情绪零碎

突然发现自己脸上发自内心的笑容已很久没出现
许许多多奇奇怪怪的事情一再发生
勉强挤出来的笑容一点都不像我自己

不知道有没有人发现到
可是，随着一个人长大
看透的事情也越来越多
想放弃的念头也越来越大

最近的情绪变得越来越不稳定
泪水，脾气，越来越不受控制

请不要说我孩子气
请不要说我无理取闹

请问问你自己
多久了，你没有真正的关心我
多久了，你没有正式的看着我，对我说“我爱你”

女生并没有那么恐怖，时常都莫名其妙的发脾气
为什么你不想想会不会是你承诺了什么却久久都没实现
我才会为了一点小事就沉不住气

向你发脾气是为了要你的注意
向你发脾气是极端的方法想要你问我，关心我到底我要的是什么

为什么你就是不能明白这一个道理?